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Akezelingitshele bakwethu ukuthi lina liyibona njani lindaba?

It's a recipe for disaster if the age difference is more than ten years, in the case of the man being older. People grow at different rates.

It's recipe for disaster if the man is more than three years younger than the woman period.

That's what I think <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

haaaaaaaaa majida mina leyo ndaba ,i tricky ,but kimi i think wat matters is how u get along,age is nuthing but a number only,i have seen 34 year olds (both man and women)behave like 21 year olds,
and vice versa.so indaba yeminyaka leyo ayilandaba ,kodwa engingavumelani lakho yikuthi usisi ole 21 years ejole lo baba ole 30 years and above ,hayi lokhu caaaaaaaaaa
i think 3 - 5 years difference wen dating is ok,lonke liyabe lisa fresh lilingana.

akelize lingicasisele lapha.
is it always the case ukuthi,in such relationships each one involved is after something.by this i mean if the guy is older is he after something fresh,and if the girl is younger is she after the guy's money.on the same point what of relationships were the girl is older,what is she after?what does that guy want from an older girl?

If the girl is older especially in thge western world she would have failed to find someone of her age-group and time would be running out.However may i say i personnally do not see anything wrong with any age gaps.Uthando lokuhlonipha umuntu yikho okunqobayo.

If you look at it from the point of who is gaining what and things like that then rest assured that it will all end in tears.Mtshele umfana omncane kulawe ukuthi wena ucabangani njalo uhloseni ngokumkhomba sometimes ukuba-serious from the start kuyanceda.Of cause a very large age gap will always be a factor but as long as the two of you understand it and are happy fine.Nxa usubone okumafana kwesintwini ongakuthanda ukuphathe sharp go for it.

Entweni ezinje ungaba lenhloni ngokwakho.

moslty ungabona usis olama 30 years ejola le boys ele 22 ,uyabe efuna i good service kuphela,
kumbe ungabona u bhudi ole 21 years ejola losisi ole 34 bayabe bekholisana kuphela ,vele lowow ngumthado wama xoxo awuyindawo.
mina lokhe ngiqina nge 5 years difference.

umuntu kufanele ayenze akufunayo,kulabantu engibaziyo where the guy is 10-12 older or vice-versa amongst blacks or whites couples and having long lasting relationships.whom u fall in love has no formula as long as there is :
trust,love,not taking each other for granted,gud communication,less inteference from third parties in most cases abantu abakutshelela eceleni,quality time,respect btwn the couple.wat i have written a few pointers and if u want 2 subtract or add a few issues u are welcome.

Pliz allow me to make my contribution. Cultural it is taboo for a teen-AGER to marry or go out with a mature lady. Those who find themselves in that situation would naturally try to justify they case by saying love is the most important thing. Remember those people who came out with that culture were not stupid. We all know what problems that gives to our families (especially our mothers and sisters) and friends.
l wanna say to those teen-AGERS that justify their act by saying, "age ain't nothing but a number ", watch out becoz you are in a deep SLUMBER. l say, look in deep. Most of these mature ladies have gone thru many bad experiences and as a result they know what to do to keep a teen-AGER hubby or BOY-friend in their arms. We all know what that can entail. If the mature lady has kids it's even worse becoz the kidz find it hard to say dad or step-dad to a teen-AGER.
In the end no matter what we say a teen-AGER is free to marry or go out with a mature lady irregardless of age.

haaaaaaaaaa majida kulabo sisi abayi 2 asebeqede ama nigerian lapha etoronto

Indaba siyayizwa but let me bring in some psychology there, in terms of maturity a girl of 18 years will match a man of 23 so lets take from there.Mina ngithi for amadoda kuyakhuthazeka ukuthi bathathe abafazi abancane kulabo ngeminyaka ngoba abafazi baguga masinya and also ubufazi bomfazi ngaphandle kwenhliziyo yisimo somzimba, ngokunjalo sibheke ukuthi uyaphanga aguge ngithi kungcono nxa indoda ithethe umfazi oncane kulayo.Eyokuthi umfazi abemdala liphutha okungamelanga lenziwa ngoba lowo mfazi usuka akuthathe njengomntanakhe njalo lemizi enjalo ilihlazo ngokunjalo kayihlali isikhathi esilengqondo leyo ndoda encane ingakadinwa...