Inkundla Forums Inkundla NetWorK Isindebele How do you view relationships between older men and younger females or vice versa?

At the end of the day I believe it is the politics of our different cultures n our personal beliefs or what we want in a relationshp that governs our affairz. If u were brought up 2 believ certain thngz are wrong an grew up 2 accept them that way u won't change that would u? Sum pipo av bn brought up in mo tolerant societies yikho nje lapha eUK a lot of thngz are acceptably which bk in Africa siyathalaza sizwe sikhuthwe zimota. Av u realisyd the number of African guys screwin white girlz? There is mo tolerance here than bk hom so abanye abantu av relegated the beliefs they had and wan 2 experiment, who cares aft' ol?

Ngokubona kwami if u fil sumthng iz not ryt 4 u DON DO IT! n if sum1 is cool wit it letz wish them the best of luck. We cannot be conservativ 4 eva bakithi. Asibhekeni, a lot of us r livn ol over the world ryt now. Av u ever imagined what Zim wil b lyk if we ol went bk ryt now? Day in day out we rub against diffrnt cultures n ideas Sum of us have or r in a proces of metarmophis idea-wise. The only danger is if they come out worse than they went in. We don look 4 the same thngz in a marriage so age myt not matter 2 ol of us though I beliv the gap shd not b very wide so that u grow n mature together omunye engeqiswa sum stages of lyf bcoz of the dmandz of the set-up.

Bakwethu, kulezi ndaba, umfazi must be half imnyaka yendoda plus 7. Ngakho, indoda eleminyaka eyi 32, kumele ithathe untombazane ole 23, at least.

Indoda ingathatha umama abatshiyana ngeminyaka embalwa, kubba loku delelana ngoba bafana lomuntu lo mfowabo.

*23 at most. uxolo bakwethu.

Uyezwakala umqondo wakho kodwa asithi u date intombi uyithande n fynd out in the course of dating ukuthi she does not fol within that age diff, usuzamala regardles of the person she is n what u fil bout her? Angilaqiniso kulokho!

It would b quite easy 2 narrow ur search n make it practical if relationshps were sumthng that comes out of fairyland. We ol kno lyf is a lot mo complicated than that. the way i view it; prospectv partners need 2 b compatible, ur views to lyf, what u want 2 do wit ur lyf n how, how much grey matter either of u possess, how u were both brought up, the ideals u both cherish. asithi u meet sum1 n if u were me she satisyd ol thez criteria BUT she was as old as you were, wd u look her in the face n tel her u don want her?

I appreciate the biological nkinga that women mature and outgrow us but sokusiya ngokuthi what u want in a person. I believ thina majida we r sumtymz 2 selfish n unrealistc. There is no way intombi yakho ezahlala ilicitsha lyk the day owayihawukela ngayo. let us accept the simple facts of lyf, grow 2gether in mynd and not body. Iminyaka wil b an issue if u want it 2 b!

mina majida eqinisweni angikhethi lutho,come wat may come ,ngiyajola,mina ngicina ku 30 years ukujola,umfazi ophezu kwaleyo,hayi usengumngane wami kuphela,
leyo yimbona yami lami.

well majida lendaba ye-age ibucayi kayifuni kuphathwa dedengu. odade baphanga bakhule kulathi liqiniso lelo, kodwa zikhona izizatho ezingenza lithathane lanxa esekhulile. lezo asingeke sazibetha ngoba sehlukene. labodade kunjalo abadala bazokudina ngesidala sabo ucine usuhlanya ngomfana wengadi kumbe owenkomo then what's the point? thathana lomthandayo.

uthando uma sithi luyazikhethela kumbe lumila lapho oluthande khona angazi ukuthi leyo siyibona kanjani endabeni zeminyaka.