Inkundla Forums Inkundla NetWorK Isindebele How do you view relationships between older men and younger females or vice versa?

Ekuhle bobaba.Hmm udaba lolu olulapha lunzima.Ngitsho ngoba phela abantu sitshiyene, amasiko ethu njalo abanye bewalandela abnye hatshi.So kusiya ngenjongo yomuntu , ngoba in most cases u can tell ukuthi lomuntu she's older or younger.Anyway i think ngensukwana zokuhlangana its natural to ask each other yr ages.Unlees its love at first sight ,(usually its lust) then uyabe ungakazi and definetely not head over heals on the first date!So that gives each one to weigh their options and decide ukuthi yikho na engikufunayo or not.If u carry on then good luck and hope it works.Phela we know ukuthi akulamuntu owaqomisa elengqondo yokuthi the first person i fall in luv with ngiyacarrer!Kuyazenza so its all part of growin up !Obviously its a different matter nxa untombazana ole 18 yrs ese specializer only in Geriatrics.Thats more than 3 in as many years then hayi lokho sokungokunye!

Kodwa nxa sixoxa lapha sile one standing assumption eyokuthi sonke singumthwakazi njalo sisalandela lelo siko ngaphandle uma ngiphambanisa.asidingisiseni ukuthi kusukela ekadeni indoda ibe iyiyo endala ngeminyaka eminengi njalo kuhlezi kulihlazo ukuthi umama omkhulu abonakale ethandana lonfana omncane...

lithini ngayo...

mina kuyangimangalisa sibili ukuthi kanti obhudi bayabebefunani emuntwini oselabantwana 2,3 whatever.
i mean basically,there are genuine relationships here and there,but the truth of the matter is ungabona owesintwana 'ethandana' lomuntu omdala kulaye,that is 14yrs older or more,each one of them is after something from the other.the younger wants material benefits and the older wants someone fresh,its a matter of ukugwaba ngento encane.
whatever the case,but thats were sugar daddies evolved from,and don't you think its weird to see a grandma holding a freshman's hand esithi yindado yakhe?

Ngibona sonke siyakubona ukuthi labomama bayavuma ukuthi bayaguga masinya njalo bangathathwa ngabantu abancane kulabo kuyahlupha. Do you know that its not an issue much for a man to enter a marriage with a kid than for a woman to do the same....

Ekuhle emzini kazulu! Ngokubona kwami if we consider a lot of issues fro the viewpoint yendulo sizathola ukuthi kunengi esikwenza 2day okwakulihlazo then and kube lokunye esingeke senelise ukukulandela. Sesiphila enkathini ezahlukile, akulani lesiko kumbe ukuthatheka ngamasiko abanye. Bathi we r livinga in a global village now yikho nje our own culture wil be changed and change those of others as we interact lezinye izizwe. Just lyk our education, politics, ECONOMICs and other important spheres of our lives do not exist in a vaccum, it is daily being changed by these interactions with the rest of the world. Khathesi nje we r sharing views singazani, 4 those who r not stubborn in acquring and assimilating new ideas, there will be a change of the way we view certain things. So at the end of the day, it becomes mo of an individual decision than widely held views.

haaaaaaaaaaa nanso indaba isibheda,angazi ukuthi ngithini.kodwa iqiniso yikuthi ,ekucineni ngundoda zikhethele,mfazi zivumele.
mina ngibona i 5 years difference iyi sweetylavo,ngoba lonke lizabe liguga okufanayo,lobu fresh buyabe bu phela same time.

one thing we have to keep in mind is that umuntu owesifazana lowesilisa abagugi okufanayo.
ungathandana lenkazana elitshiyana nge 5yrs or less lingaba lomntwana ke?you will notice ukuthi she will look far much older than she really is.njalo ngiyavumelana lawe skuvethe ukuthi kungaba le difference say of about 10years kubalokuhloniphana okuthize.
there are of course extremes ukuthi kule 20year difference,hatshi lapho kuyabe sekungokunye.but quite frankly angiboni hlupho with 12year,10year differences but 2year differences do have a question mark.

Yezi, uqinisile i5 to 12 year difference ikahle. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Kanti majida ma sibheka abazali bethu nje jikele dd they have the age difference eliyibalayo? Inhlonipho isemuntwini hatshi eminyakeni yakhe, ingathi abanye abantwana bamisana labazali babo what mo wena eliyabe litshayisane emangweni wempilo and I also believe sesiphila enkathini ezahlukile, odade r moving up in many wayz and many a tym they will demand mo say in an affair. The contributions from odade in this forum proves that point. Criticism is not disrespect.

madoda lamanina ngisesengumfanyana ngangiqomisela ubuhle ifiga le-age ngingasifuni isalukazi but ngathi sengikhulile ngadinga isimilo lomama ongakha umuzi olamandla leplani ekhanda. sitshiyane ngowodwa lezinyanganyana our life is skyrocketing. my children will be proud to have such a mother and i'm proud to have such a wife with her strength i'll build an empire she respects me, my family & my friends. i'm home guys. nxa uthatha kumbe uthathwa have your qualities & objectives clear. this is avery personal and localised arena kuyangokuthi ungubani uhloseni & angisoli muntu abathi i-age matters sisonke ngoba yikubona kwabo mina ngedwa ngithi isimilo phambili isimo mbayimbayi. akuyiwa nganxanye kungemanzi bakwethu. these are my little views Mawudlwamahle.what then am i saying, "i'll rather marry an ugly old & educated[not only learned]woman than a beautiful curvey & young imbecile". well bantwabahle lindaba inde ithini ngingadonsende. uPrince Carlos wehlukana loDiana a very beautiful young woman firm and elegant going for a swathy skinned Carmilla Packer B 5 years older than him becoz of L.O.V.E. uDi laye for Fayed an arab or moslem something,from the palace becoz of L.O.V.E. nxa usumthandile umuntu only GOD can stop that becoz HE is ertenal me & yu very temporary, for me & you is the present and the past the future is not ours to see que sera sera whatever will be will be.