Akezelingitshele bakwethu ukuthi lina liyibona njani lindaba?

It's a recipe for disaster if the age difference is more than ten years, in the case of the man being older. People grow at different rates.

It's recipe for disaster if the man is more than three years younger than the woman period.

That's what I think

haaaaaaaaa majida mina leyo ndaba ,i tricky ,but kimi i think wat matters is how u get along,age is nuthing but a number only,i have seen 34 year olds (both man and women)behave like 21 year olds,
and vice versa.so indaba yeminyaka leyo ayilandaba ,kodwa engingavumelani lakho yikuthi usisi ole 21 years ejole lo baba ole 30 years and above ,hayi lokhu caaaaaaaaaa
i think 3 - 5 years difference wen dating is ok,lonke liyabe lisa fresh lilingana.

akelize lingicasisele lapha.
is it always the case ukuthi,in such relationships each one involved is after something.by this i mean if the guy is older is he after something fresh,and if the girl is younger is she after the guy's money.on the same point what of relationships were the girl is older,what is she after?what does that guy want from an older girl?

If the girl is older especially in thge western world she would have failed to find someone of her age-group and time would be running out.However may i say i personnally do not see anything wrong with any age gaps.Uthando lokuhlonipha umuntu yikho okunqobayo.

If you look at it from the point of who is gaining what and things like that then rest assured that it will all end in tears.Mtshele umfana omncane kulawe ukuthi wena ucabangani njalo uhloseni ngokumkhomba sometimes ukuba-serious from the start kuyanceda.Of cause a very large age gap will always be a factor but as long as the two of you understand it and are happy fine.Nxa usubone okumafana kwesintwini ongakuthanda ukuphathe sharp go for it.

Entweni ezinje ungaba lenhloni ngokwakho.

moslty ungabona usis olama 30 years ejola le boys ele 22 ,uyabe efuna i good service kuphela,
kumbe ungabona u bhudi ole 21 years ejola losisi ole 34 bayabe bekholisana kuphela ,vele lowow ngumthado wama xoxo awuyindawo.
mina lokhe ngiqina nge 5 years difference.

umuntu kufanele ayenze akufunayo,kulabantu engibaziyo where the guy is 10-12 older or vice-versa amongst blacks or whites couples and having long lasting relationships.whom u fall in love has no formula as long as there is :
trust,love,not taking each other for granted,gud communication,less inteference from third parties in most cases abantu abakutshelela eceleni,quality time,respect btwn the couple.wat i have written a few pointers and if u want 2 subtract or add a few issues u are welcome.

Pliz allow me to make my contribution. Cultural it is taboo for a teen-AGER to marry or go out with a mature lady. Those who find themselves in that situation would naturally try to justify they case by saying love is the most important thing. Remember those people who came out with that culture were not stupid. We all know what problems that gives to our families (especially our mothers and sisters) and friends.
l wanna say to those teen-AGERS that justify their act by saying, "age ain't nothing but a number ", watch out becoz you are in a deep SLUMBER. l say, look in deep. Most of these mature ladies have gone thru many bad experiences and as a result they know what to do to keep a teen-AGER hubby or BOY-friend in their arms. We all know what that can entail. If the mature lady has kids it's even worse becoz the kidz find it hard to say dad or step-dad to a teen-AGER.
In the end no matter what we say a teen-AGER is free to marry or go out with a mature lady irregardless of age.

haaaaaaaaaa majida kulabo sisi abayi 2 asebeqede ama nigerian lapha etoronto

Indaba siyayizwa but let me bring in some psychology there, in terms of maturity a girl of 18 years will match a man of 23 so lets take from there.Mina ngithi for amadoda kuyakhuthazeka ukuthi bathathe abafazi abancane kulabo ngeminyaka ngoba abafazi baguga masinya and also ubufazi bomfazi ngaphandle kwenhliziyo yisimo somzimba, ngokunjalo sibheke ukuthi uyaphanga aguge ngithi kungcono nxa indoda ithethe umfazi oncane kulayo.Eyokuthi umfazi abemdala liphutha okungamelanga lenziwa ngoba lowo mfazi usuka akuthathe njengomntanakhe njalo lemizi enjalo ilihlazo ngokunjalo kayihlali isikhathi esilengqondo leyo ndoda encane ingakadinwa...

At the end of the day I believe it is the politics of our different cultures n our personal beliefs or what we want in a relationshp that governs our affairz. If u were brought up 2 believ certain thngz are wrong an grew up 2 accept them that way u won't change that would u? Sum pipo av bn brought up in mo tolerant societies yikho nje lapha eUK a lot of thngz are acceptably which bk in Africa siyathalaza sizwe sikhuthwe zimota. Av u realisyd the number of African guys screwin white girlz? There is mo tolerance here than bk hom so abanye abantu av relegated the beliefs they had and wan 2 experiment, who cares aft' ol?

Ngokubona kwami if u fil sumthng iz not ryt 4 u DON DO IT! n if sum1 is cool wit it letz wish them the best of luck. We cannot be conservativ 4 eva bakithi. Asibhekeni, a lot of us r livn ol over the world ryt now. Av u ever imagined what Zim wil b lyk if we ol went bk ryt now? Day in day out we rub against diffrnt cultures n ideas Sum of us have or r in a proces of metarmophis idea-wise. The only danger is if they come out worse than they went in. We don look 4 the same thngz in a marriage so age myt not matter 2 ol of us though I beliv the gap shd not b very wide so that u grow n mature together omunye engeqiswa sum stages of lyf bcoz of the dmandz of the set-up.

Bakwethu, kulezi ndaba, umfazi must be half imnyaka yendoda plus 7. Ngakho, indoda eleminyaka eyi 32, kumele ithathe untombazane ole 23, at least.

Indoda ingathatha umama abatshiyana ngeminyaka embalwa, kubba loku delelana ngoba bafana lomuntu lo mfowabo.

*23 at most. uxolo bakwethu.

Uyezwakala umqondo wakho kodwa asithi u date intombi uyithande n fynd out in the course of dating ukuthi she does not fol within that age diff, usuzamala regardles of the person she is n what u fil bout her? Angilaqiniso kulokho!

It would b quite easy 2 narrow ur search n make it practical if relationshps were sumthng that comes out of fairyland. We ol kno lyf is a lot mo complicated than that. the way i view it; prospectv partners need 2 b compatible, ur views to lyf, what u want 2 do wit ur lyf n how, how much grey matter either of u possess, how u were both brought up, the ideals u both cherish. asithi u meet sum1 n if u were me she satisyd ol thez criteria BUT she was as old as you were, wd u look her in the face n tel her u don want her?

I appreciate the biological nkinga that women mature and outgrow us but sokusiya ngokuthi what u want in a person. I believ thina majida we r sumtymz 2 selfish n unrealistc. There is no way intombi yakho ezahlala ilicitsha lyk the day owayihawukela ngayo. let us accept the simple facts of lyf, grow 2gether in mynd and not body. Iminyaka wil b an issue if u want it 2 b!

mina majida eqinisweni angikhethi lutho,come wat may come ,ngiyajola,mina ngicina ku 30 years ukujola,umfazi ophezu kwaleyo,hayi usengumngane wami kuphela,
leyo yimbona yami lami.

well majida lendaba ye-age ibucayi kayifuni kuphathwa dedengu. odade baphanga bakhule kulathi liqiniso lelo, kodwa zikhona izizatho ezingenza lithathane lanxa esekhulile. lezo asingeke sazibetha ngoba sehlukene. labodade kunjalo abadala bazokudina ngesidala sabo ucine usuhlanya ngomfana wengadi kumbe owenkomo then what's the point? thathana lomthandayo.

uthando uma sithi luyazikhethela kumbe lumila lapho oluthande khona angazi ukuthi leyo siyibona kanjani endabeni zeminyaka.

Ekuhle bobaba.Hmm udaba lolu olulapha lunzima.Ngitsho ngoba phela abantu sitshiyene, amasiko ethu njalo abanye bewalandela abnye hatshi.So kusiya ngenjongo yomuntu , ngoba in most cases u can tell ukuthi lomuntu she's older or younger.Anyway i think ngensukwana zokuhlangana its natural to ask each other yr ages.Unlees its love at first sight ,(usually its lust) then uyabe ungakazi and definetely not head over heals on the first date!So that gives each one to weigh their options and decide ukuthi yikho na engikufunayo or not.If u carry on then good luck and hope it works.Phela we know ukuthi akulamuntu owaqomisa elengqondo yokuthi the first person i fall in luv with ngiyacarrer!Kuyazenza so its all part of growin up !Obviously its a different matter nxa untombazana ole 18 yrs ese specializer only in Geriatrics.Thats more than 3 in as many years then hayi lokho sokungokunye!

Kodwa nxa sixoxa lapha sile one standing assumption eyokuthi sonke singumthwakazi njalo sisalandela lelo siko ngaphandle uma ngiphambanisa.asidingisiseni ukuthi kusukela ekadeni indoda ibe iyiyo endala ngeminyaka eminengi njalo kuhlezi kulihlazo ukuthi umama omkhulu abonakale ethandana lonfana omncane...

lithini ngayo...

mina kuyangimangalisa sibili ukuthi kanti obhudi bayabebefunani emuntwini oselabantwana 2,3 whatever.
i mean basically,there are genuine relationships here and there,but the truth of the matter is ungabona owesintwana 'ethandana' lomuntu omdala kulaye,that is 14yrs older or more,each one of them is after something from the other.the younger wants material benefits and the older wants someone fresh,its a matter of ukugwaba ngento encane.
whatever the case,but thats were sugar daddies evolved from,and don't you think its weird to see a grandma holding a freshman's hand esithi yindado yakhe?

Ngibona sonke siyakubona ukuthi labomama bayavuma ukuthi bayaguga masinya njalo bangathathwa ngabantu abancane kulabo kuyahlupha. Do you know that its not an issue much for a man to enter a marriage with a kid than for a woman to do the same....

Ekuhle emzini kazulu! Ngokubona kwami if we consider a lot of issues fro the viewpoint yendulo sizathola ukuthi kunengi esikwenza 2day okwakulihlazo then and kube lokunye esingeke senelise ukukulandela. Sesiphila enkathini ezahlukile, akulani lesiko kumbe ukuthatheka ngamasiko abanye. Bathi we r livinga in a global village now yikho nje our own culture wil be changed and change those of others as we interact lezinye izizwe. Just lyk our education, politics, ECONOMICs and other important spheres of our lives do not exist in a vaccum, it is daily being changed by these interactions with the rest of the world. Khathesi nje we r sharing views singazani, 4 those who r not stubborn in acquring and assimilating new ideas, there will be a change of the way we view certain things. So at the end of the day, it becomes mo of an individual decision than widely held views.

haaaaaaaaaaa nanso indaba isibheda,angazi ukuthi ngithini.kodwa iqiniso yikuthi ,ekucineni ngundoda zikhethele,mfazi zivumele.
mina ngibona i 5 years difference iyi sweetylavo,ngoba lonke lizabe liguga okufanayo,lobu fresh buyabe bu phela same time.

one thing we have to keep in mind is that umuntu owesifazana lowesilisa abagugi okufanayo.
ungathandana lenkazana elitshiyana nge 5yrs or less lingaba lomntwana ke?you will notice ukuthi she will look far much older than she really is.njalo ngiyavumelana lawe skuvethe ukuthi kungaba le difference say of about 10years kubalokuhloniphana okuthize.
there are of course extremes ukuthi kule 20year difference,hatshi lapho kuyabe sekungokunye.but quite frankly angiboni hlupho with 12year,10year differences but 2year differences do have a question mark.

Yezi, uqinisile i5 to 12 year difference ikahle.

Kanti majida ma sibheka abazali bethu nje jikele dd they have the age difference eliyibalayo? Inhlonipho isemuntwini hatshi eminyakeni yakhe, ingathi abanye abantwana bamisana labazali babo what mo wena eliyabe litshayisane emangweni wempilo and I also believe sesiphila enkathini ezahlukile, odade r moving up in many wayz and many a tym they will demand mo say in an affair. The contributions from odade in this forum proves that point. Criticism is not disrespect.

madoda lamanina ngisesengumfanyana ngangiqomisela ubuhle ifiga le-age ngingasifuni isalukazi but ngathi sengikhulile ngadinga isimilo lomama ongakha umuzi olamandla leplani ekhanda. sitshiyane ngowodwa lezinyanganyana our life is skyrocketing. my children will be proud to have such a mother and i'm proud to have such a wife with her strength i'll build an empire she respects me, my family & my friends. i'm home guys. nxa uthatha kumbe uthathwa have your qualities & objectives clear. this is avery personal and localised arena kuyangokuthi ungubani uhloseni & angisoli muntu abathi i-age matters sisonke ngoba yikubona kwabo mina ngedwa ngithi isimilo phambili isimo mbayimbayi. akuyiwa nganxanye kungemanzi bakwethu. these are my little views Mawudlwamahle.what then am i saying, "i'll rather marry an ugly old & educated[not only learned]woman than a beautiful curvey & young imbecile". well bantwabahle lindaba inde ithini ngingadonsende. uPrince Carlos wehlukana loDiana a very beautiful young woman firm and elegant going for a swathy skinned Carmilla Packer B 5 years older than him becoz of L.O.V.E. uDi laye for Fayed an arab or moslem something,from the palace becoz of L.O.V.E. nxa usumthandile umuntu only GOD can stop that becoz HE is ertenal me & yu very temporary, for me & you is the present and the past the future is not ours to see que sera sera whatever will be will be.

isimilo yinqaba bakwethu ngivumelana le above entry kodwa ke umuntu wesifazane angaba lengane kucina kukhanya angathi usekhululile.eyami i theory ngithi ingane ingezelela imnyaka kumuntu wesintwana eyisitshiya ngalo lunye.

Eh mnumzana Malimaza ngiyavumelana lombono wakho kodwa umbuzo wami yikuthi nxa lithandana, lihloniphana njalo usazi mhlophe ukuthi iminyaka leyo ingezelelwe yinzalo yakho pho uhlupho lungaphi? U can't have it both wayz mfokamdala, uma usesaba ukumgugisa ngengane then ungabilazo!

sero mahlabezulu,okutshoyo kuyezwakala.mina ikhoca lami liyi 11yrs younger than me,ngenza njalo ukwenzela ukuthi angaba lengane kukhanye angathi uleminyaka emibili younger than me.ukuhlala phetsheya kakutsho ukuthi sitshiyane lemthotho yesintu,in short i'm saying mahlabezulu i want kids as well as having umfazi okuzakhanya engamdala kulami nxa esebe lengane.

Kucacile jida but iz it u whoz concerned ukuthi uzakhanya esewohlokile or how u thnk she looks in the eyez of the world? Lami ngiqhuba isintu but laso jus lyk religion nje kukhona lapho esidedela umumo kumbe amaprinciples omuntu. Mina ngibona at tymz odade tend ukuziyekelela when they have kids, uthole sebegqoka, behave and socialise as if they have suddenly aged. Ukuziphatha komuntu helps at tymz to defy age.

personally i donot deny the fact that there are genuine relationships were the man is quite older than the girl or vice versa and what holds them together is nothing but love for each other,but most of the time the relationship is based on two things which one of them is not love.they are based on sex and money.especially overseas,undoda uyabe tshiye umfazi ekhaya and unkazana etshiye ingani,and once they come here they get into a romp with each other.

Yezi

Kukhona ngempela in some cases kodwa not in all.

Mina ngilungiselela umtshado wami lesoka lami, mina ngeni26 yana une37, yimnyaka elitshumi lanye. Kuthiwa yini lokhu? Unengane yinye from a previous relationship mina I have two boys from a previous relationship. Nginayo imfundo enganeno lamanje ngisesikolo, isoka lami liyabhadala, yena he is a professional already with a doctorate on the way. Kuthiwa yini?

i am not intrested in commenting on your private and personal life Vuma.

Wena yezi, uzenza juice hayikhona. Uyakuhlabisa usisteri ukuthi imfamfarara oyi witayo ayithetshi, uyaku bonisa ukuthi bayi namba osero lama khoca besi ndenge abagijimisi cweba wena uyambuluza.

Hantsho nguwe owaqala le ngxoxo manje inkinga yini? Yekela is'vembi futhi, singa mandenge la.

*abanga gijimisi icweba kumbe ufakafaka.

zwana ungathi 'wena' kimi serwanz,and i will not comment on people's personal lives take it or leave it.i will comment on the topic in general.further more if you've got a problem with english stuff it thats not my problem.i will respond in which ever language im comfortable with and which ever i choose,if it bothers you don't respond.

Mayuyu bo dade, akulwiwa enkundleni bo. The mo personal thngs are taken the worse for the xchange yemibono. Let us no allow ourselvs to be overtakn by our emotionz. Ukwehluka kwemibono is actually a healthy thing as I c it coz it provides different lanes for pipo to travesty. lisale

Linjani bantu bakithi. I am very much interested in this topic eyamarelationships btwn older man & younger females. Mina ngivumelana lothi age is just a number. At the same time ngivumelana lokuthi utshomi has to be older than ucherry.

Noma nje iteam ivale ngokudliwa ngabetshabi bafowethu, Mina lami ngilifisela ikhisimusi enhle kanye lomnyaka omutsha olempumelelo kanye le team eqinileyo njalo ezadabula ishutaz eBF.

Hawu.

Indaba yaqala imnandi kangaka ngaze ngehluleka ukuginya, kanti sekutheni bafowethu.

Zinhle indaba ezinhle. U Vuma ubuya kahle. Uma ulithanda ijaha lakho, mina ngithi luthando lolo ilisibonisa lona.

I Zwangendaba laphindela e Swazini lapho ngaya lobola khona. Unkosikazi wami ngimtshiya emuva. Kulabo asebevule amehlo, ngimtshiya nge>>>> uxolo, angisoze ngilitshele.

Kodwa okwamanje silabantwana abathathu, sisonke okwe 14 years manje. This is half my personal life. yisiboniso leso ukwenzela ukuthi usisi uVuma angaziboni eyedwa. Lamanye amaxhegu afana lami angaziboni ewodwa.

Zinhle indaba ezinhle.

Li Zwangendaba.

Otsheri besiNdebeleni nxa befuna ukwendeni kwaba kubo they have to make an effort to do so.

Lingahlala ekhoneni licatshe bodade I am sorry banengi osisi asebezwile ngembali yamajaha akini enhle njalo sebephambili kulani.So stand up and show who and where you are.

Okwe-age its personal

Kanti yangikhutha njani lindaba emnandi kangaka bantu?

Lami angazi. yindaba enguluju. Abanye bethu have always wanted older women, say 10 - 15 year older. Angitsho mina, ngitsho nje amajaha amanengi.

Kubi na?

Mabila loDokotela you may have in excess of 700 posts between the two of you ( not that there is anything wrong with that) but relatively, lingoMafikizolo ngakho zinengi indaba ezalikhuthayo. Buzani thina ama veteran!

Si updethe phela Bhudaza hawu bantu kule name calling.....hk hk hk

Dok kuthiwa yithi esilawulayo......asithule bakhawule hk hk hk

Ekuhle kwezothando.

Bhudaza,imbambo lokhu zingavumi ngencwadi yomzawakho, langapha uyi-senior futhi, ha usel'eceleni wena mfana.......hatshi ngamahlaya mfowethu ngiyazi ukuthi nxa wena laboMabila laboDoc likhona konke sokuvuthiwe.

Ake ngibuze lonke-nje majaha lezintombi ukuthi ngubani owathi ebona intombi wahle wayisukela ngokuthi ileminyaka emingaki?

The first impression is the facial and structural appearance then you attack, lokho okokuthi imnyaka mingaki kubonakala later and if you put-off the affair because of the age differnce then there is something wrong with you or you might have discovered something wrong with the character of the person and not, I repeat, not the problem with the age.

Remember, age is nothing but a number, as long as you get what you want then you are home and dry.

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