hey bantu ncedani...ngafa ngedwa nje!!! i need a man...a real man...i once had that kynd of man now he's gone and i'm rebounding bad....i need a man.....

Hawu msindo ungasethusi kanje.

Uthi wena uyafa ngendlala, awuphilanga kade wacina ukuba lejaha.

Inkinga yakho ingaphi? uma uyiCute byach leyo ozibiza yona manje kwala ngaphi.

Indaba yakho leyo inzima njalo ngeke sakunceda uma ungatshongo ukuthi ungumuntu onjani, ujongeni empliweni njalo lowo "Real Man" owawulaye wabalekiswa yini?

Akucace, phumela egcekeni.

Ngokubona kwami did the "real man" dump u?Yindaba ungambuzanga ukubana wakwalelani,there was a reason dade.Yikuthi abanye abantu baba lothando which they tend to give to every jack and jill,ube usucabanga ukuthi umuntu akumele.

Zama ukuzinceda. Ungavakatshela amagilosa athengiza ithoyizi zokuzinceda dade hk hk.

Ngiyazisomela dade. Zama 'Inkundla-yezothando', im sure akhona amajaha alephango njengawe dade!!

DINGA NGOKUSHESHA SIBILI KUNKUNDLA YEZOTHANDO KODWA UKUTHI UZAYITHOLA SIBILI I TRUE LOVE,ANGAZI.AMA TRUE LOVE ASALA EMA AIRPOT BACK HOME JUST LIKE IMBEKO LAYO YONKE LENYAKANYAKA.

DINGA IJAHA KUPHELA OKWE TRUE LOVE UME KANCANE,NANKO UTHI U ONCE EXPERIENCED IT LOMUNYE UMUNTU KODWA SOKWAPHELA,BATHI TRUE LOVE NEVER DIES.

NGIKUFISELA INHLANHLA DADEWETHU

THE THING IZ KUNZIMA UKUTHOLA ITRUE LOVE MNAWAMI COZ IN MOST CASES WONKE UMUNTU UYABE ESITHI UYAKUTHANDA YENA ELENJONGO YAKHE FOR EXAMPLE EYEKUKUKHWELA ADLULE. THEN OMUNYE UBUYA EL;ETRUE LOVE KUHLALE KUYITRUE LOVE KUBEMNANDI KUBENJEYA. MINA MY ADVICE IZ 4 U 2 FIND TRUE LOVE U HAVE TO TAKE ARISKSSSSS THEN MAYBE ALONG THE LINE U MAY OR MAYNOT FIND TRUE LIFE.

THE THING IZ KUNZIMA UKUTHOLA ITRUE LOVE MNAWAMI COZ IN MOST CASES WONKE UMUNTU UYABE ESITHI UYAKUTHANDA YENA ELENJONGO YAKHE FOR EXAMPLE EYEKUKUKHWELA ADLULE. THEN OMUNYE UBUYA EL;ETRUE LOVE KUHLALE KUYITRUE LOVE KUBEMNANDI KUBENJEYA. MINA MY ADVICE IZ 4 U 2 FIND TRUE LOVE U HAVE TO TAKE ARISKSSSSS THEN MAYBE ALONG THE LINE U MAY OR MAYNOT FIND TRUE LIFE.

My sister am not the one sort of person who likes giving advice on such matters, but however i must say your wailing somehow caught my attention.To bigin with i would like to offer you words of courage,wisdom and above all motivation so that you won't feel hard pressed and end up succumbing to temptation.Better late than never those are my first words of comfort to you.I know for a fact that greatest happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved- loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.Having said this may i hasten to point out to you that love is a gift, its only that we receive this gift at different stages of our life time, some receive it earlier than others while others receive it a bit latter in life.Msindo allow me to tell you that you haven't received your gift yet! but it will surely come to you, thats as certain as much as we know the sun will rise from the east and set on the west.I have reason to believe that what you perhaps thought was the one wasn't at all, for what god gives never takes away.Rest easy my sister avoid temptations mingle with the right sort of people and visit the right sort of places and above all the way you carry yourself out says it all.If you want a proper man act like a proper lady and you will soon be set free for Mother Teresa once said "Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within reach of every hand." .I therefore believe that you also have a chance of stretching out your hand to receive this gift but be careful not to stretch your hand to everyman you will find yourself in muddy waters. i don't believe in going about taking risks with everyhand just like one of our members advised. It is quite simply dangerous in this day and age, take your time and remember the devil thrives in desperation my sister.Believe in yourself there are so many man out there who genuinely are looking for genuine women ,so for this reason let me say to you that you are not alone in this predicament but the difference is how you handle the situation.So Msindo your man is available out there and he is on his way, don't worry and go on trying everydoor its just not worth it.No man would want to get involved with everyone's woman but would want to appreciate and have in his arms a worthy lady.I hope my words will not bring about any pain in anybody's heart but will help everyone out there in a similar situation.

Well to say the least i understand where you are cause im kind like there as well..you might find someone to relive the stress but then the True Love is hard to find ...

Don't just take risk..take calculated risks with your heart..
Pray about it...
Do not Rush it...
Enjoy your freedom...

And Hope that God will hear your prayers and give you some to LOVE...

Good LUCK...

Mina ngithi zamazama dade, kodwa uzame kwabakithi hatshi iziyelele zezizweni.

Ngezinye izikhathi, uthando luqalisa ngecansi. Ngaze impintshi ikupensele blayind, kusharp, nxa ingavele ijwayele ayisoze ifune ukukwekela. Uyiphe blayind izkimu, ize ihlale ingela hlanyelo.

Impintshi yakho yakuqala yakulehlelani? Wawuyipha na izkimu? Abadala bathi zithiywa ngezikudlayo, njalo baphinde bathi umswane wedube ngose siswini. Ngithemba kusobala.

Ulunya olukulumuzi qotho!

Ungezwa wena Msindo. Qinisela ubekezele uzaze umthole oqinisekileyo. Just don't despair. Your time will come Mama! Unganiki kuphela ikhekhe lakho mahara until azinikele kuwe wedwa!

Msindo ngizakukhumbila nxa ngiguqa ngoba lami ngibambe lunye.Uyazi kunzima ukuya ecansini lomuntu ongamthandiyo ukhangelele ukuthi kungaphuma uthando.Amatoyisi ngangiwakhumbule kodwa phela kawasoze afane layo uqobo.Ilala-vuka-sisi(doc shebeleza),kayisadlisi kulezinsuku ngoba ungasala lamafingure prints.Ama-cd lawo ngangiwasole ngenani labantu abasitshiya ngendaba leyana ezwisa ubuhlungu

Majita
Khombisani kuhle lapha hayikhona ukuzenza o Agony Aunt bamanga! Isiqokoqela sendaba liyasazi. Ngethemba yikho elikwenzayo ngasese

u will find true love msindo jus be patient yeahhhh good things come to those who wait

Kanti bakwethu lingangitshela nje ukuthi yindaba lilolunya lomunye uMthwakazi.Kunani ukuthi sizithulele kulokubhubhisa isizwe sikaMthwakazi ngento ezingelamsebenzi shuwa.

Msindo

Uma kuyikuthi uvele ulomsindo njenge gama lakho ngiyabona yikho okukhathazayo. Uboluma owangaphansi dade mhlawumbe amajaha kawafuni umuntu olomsindo. Mina ngokwami kangilandaba losisi olomsindo

Dok

Wangibulala s'bali nge advice!

Bhudaza

Lawe umsindo uyawumela hk hk hk.

Lina bafana ligangile, lingami engotsheni yangakithi ngizalithela ngamazi alobukhokho

Msindo

the only way of finding true love is to give it to someone, it is in you.

three devils had a meeting to discuss on how to hide love from man. the first one suggested they cast love into a volcanic crater. the chief devil pointed that man is so cunning he will dig for minerals and find love. the second devil suggested they throw love into the deepest ocean, but the chief devil refrained by pointing that man will certainly plunder the oceanfloors and find love. on the next morning the chief devil had a brilliant idea, they agreed to hide love in man himself.

moral of the story

kanti umsindo wakhona ingani kasa phenduli??kumbe sehle waluthola uthando masinaye kanje

Ngilrlinye isu dade. Leli lande uku sentshenziswa ngabe tshabi, kodwa njengoba usesikhathini sendlala zama.

Dinga impintshi, elegeje yakithi engela mfazi. Njengokutsho kwami ngaphambilini, uyiphe iskapenya blayind, ibe njengo bunyonyo obufela elujwini.

Zama ukuthi ikumithise. Ungaba le sisu, engazama ukukwala, hamba emthethwandaba ibhadale imentenensi. Izabona kumele ukuthathe, ngoba nxa ingeyakithi iyabe ingafuni uku tshintsha impondo ukuthi bhadale imentenensi.

Zama ukubuzisisa ukuthi, ungenza njani ecansini lapho ukuthi uyijabulise leyo mpintshi.

Nxa ufuna amaleseni ecansi ulakho ukuza ngapha esibhedlela uzancedakala.

WuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuHHH

Sarendi!!

Yini usarenda kanti mngane, mina ngithi uzangi qakezela izandla. Kumele ngithole imiklomelo ngalelisu.

Ulayela umntwana esilaheni wenzani kanti Dokotela???

Hawu dade Mabila, i advise yami le yiyo ongayithola ku psychologist dade. Okwamanje akula geje engilitholayo kodwa, intwenje yinto okumele ingitholise igeje blayind.

Msindo, uthe wena u khyuthi kodwa uthe umlomo wakho awuhlalwa mpukane. Kugcono ukuthi uvale umlomo, kodwa uvule iskapenya for impintshi.

Dinga i true love Msindo from abangane besilisa olabo khona manje.

Ofuna iskapenya ngolimi luka Dok umele alinde. Nxa engazimiselanga ukulinda, mtshle adlulele phambili bamnike abanikanayo!

Msindo dade, mina engakuzwa from the one wise and experienced oldie yikuthi the best true love there is out there luthando wena ozinikeza lona ngokwakho. Zama ukunga khanyi njengo muntu who yearns for anybody else's brand of true love. Carry yourself in a mannerr that refelcts that you truly love yourself, and anybody else's "true love is just a bonus."

Kodwa ke angisho mina ukuthi uncishane nge momoza since ukusheya imomoza is quite an enjoyable excercise, and maybe some true love might develop from there (angithi Doc?). Lokhu okwama "toys" as suggested by some "experienced" forumites is an uncalled for misuse of a God-given resource.

hope you find your brand of true love.

Kenje uhlala ngaphi dade?

hk hk hk Dok usufuna ngivuse isaga esinye hantsho?

Iskapenya asiwakhi umuzi.

Siyavumelana Ndumshy, iskapenya kumele siphiwe impintshi sonke hayi ikhanda kuphela. Kumele impintshi ihlale ingela mbewu amasakeni ukwenzela ukuthi ingaze yacabanga ngabanye.

Ukuncishana le momoza yinto embi kakhulu, okumele yenqatshelwe ethandweni.

Sgero, hk hk. Iskapenya siyawakha mfo umuzi, yiso umlomo wesi gcinambewu phela.

Msindo, ungasake uthole yena jaha, osithandayo iskapenya. Ovuka ngaso alantshe ngaso aphinde alale ngaso apahphame ngaso.

Dok

mfowethu angithi uyazi ukuthi izaga zilokuphikisana. Nansi esiphikisa lesiya sakuqala:

Umuzi kawakhiwa nge skapenya esisodwa.

Liqiniso lelo mfanakithi. Umuzi wakhiwa ngazo izkapenya mfowethu.

Uyangchaza brawami!

thanx for all those advices...bt mina i wont rest till i fnd real love aiite.....

p.s. angisoze ngithule futhi...my mouth is big and its needs opening!!!
kawuhlalwa yimpukane!!

Msindo

Ungadinga uswele mntakadade, ungitshele ngizakuthumela kubo 'danela ngapha'

dade Msindo mina ngibona sengathi ukhona osekuhlabe umxhwele enkundleni lapha, akumbethe igama lakhe kubekanye. Okwesibili dade wena do you have the so called 'true love' to give. I don't think so. Love is just natural. Iyazibhubhudlela nje isiya lapho ethande khona. Of which ngendlela odinga ngayo le ngeke uze uyifumane. Yikho nje ngisithi I think you are targeting someone enkundleni lapha. Thetha naye liphanane imomoza. Thats what life is about.

Bosgero labo dokotela kungani lingehlisa kanje. Can't you service the desperate soul. Ufuna imomoza uMsindo. Selilokhu limxwayisa lokhu lalokhuya kulokuthi limbizele ngasese limcende.
Selingesabisa phela majida, indlela eliphendula ngayo ungathi lina umlilo kade wacima. Sizani udade.

dade Msindo mina ngibona sengathi ukhona osekuhlabe umxhwele enkundleni lapha, akumbethe igama lakhe kubekanye. Okwesibili dade wena do you have the so called 'true love' to give. I don't think so. Love is just natural. Iyazibhubhudlela nje isiya lapho ethande khona. Of which ngendlela odinga ngayo le ngeke uze uyifumane. Yikho nje ngisithi I think you are targeting someone enkundleni lapha. Thetha naye liphanane imomoza. Thats what life is about.

Bosgero labo dokotela kungani lingehlisa kanje. Can't you service the desperate soul. Ufuna imomoza uMsindo. Selilokhu limxwayisa lokhu lalokhuya kulokuthi limbizele ngasese limcende.
Selingesabisa phela majida, indlela eliphendula ngayo ungathi lina umlilo kade wacima. Sizani udade.

MALISA uyahlekisana mntakababa lami bengithi mhlawumbe kukhona okutshaya amanzi la enkundleni. ukhuluma ngemva kwendaba ngoba omunye umfowethu osingili sowabika kodwa kakatholi impendula mhlawumbe umsindo wandelwa zincwadi zokufuna uthando angazi.(application)

Gaselomhle

hk hk hk mina dala ngazibika mfowethu sengilinde nje ukuthi udade aqedelane labamotsha isikhathi azezihlalela kimi la. Ingotsha futhi kuye kulezinsuku iluhlaza tshoko, uma ucatshe vele ungabonwa muntu!! Inswabanda azikho futhi.

Kunjalo Gasela.

Ngisapota uSgero, ekuthini uMsindo, kumele aye engotsheni impintshi ifihle ispanela. Okwe ndandatho sizakubona kwelizayo. Kuqakathekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi ichibi litshona okunganani ungaka zimiseli ukuhlala ukubhukutsha kilo.

Msindo, usumtholile ozathanda wena leskapenya sakho.

kanti msindo wena ungaphi kwendawo??

kade ngakudinga msindo.ukuphi?

phendula dadewethu awuzwe sezibika amadoda anganamahloni.Sengathi inhlanhla ingahle ikuvelele ivela kumfowethu utshisa. bambangamazinyo.

Ngicela usizo bandla;
Do men love as women do or thir love is seasonal, ie-it comes and goes.
ngibuziswa yinkinga engilayo, I am head over heals ngeny'insizwa but ijinge iphole nje. Nxa ngiyibuza ukuthi iyangithanda na, ivele ithi qotho mntan'omuntu and nxa sisonke uyangijabulisa kodwa ngijinge ngingazi ukuthi luthando kumbe ligabazi mvelo yakhe.
Ukubanda kwakhe kusekuthini uyathuliselela athi nya okwezinyanga. If I do not initiate contact uyazithulela. Ma ngibuza uthi ngiyabe ngiphathekile.
Kodwa ke lumuntu ngiyamthanda, nooma sengilele ngiphupha ngaye.
Zinsizwa tshonini, luyisima kanjani uthando from yo pespective kumbe lumuntu udlala umbhedo lami.
Ngisizeni bo, khona manje iyadabuka inhliziyo yami ngayo, ngesikhathi esifanayo impompoza uthando oluzileyo ngaye.

Nqoba


Nonetheless, I'll address your problem. Izwa ngami mina Ngqesta wodumo. Sisi wami, uyabon' ukuthini, lo masaka othandana naye akekho serious. Udlala ngawe nje. Ukwenza kwakhe lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi vese yena uno mayidululu wakhe, isinqandamathe sakhe, isixebe sakhe esimkhumbuza eNevaneva - sithathe sonke isikhathi sakhe. Wena nje usuke akucabange, akufune eceleni kwakhe only if esevukelwe, sekushisa enzansi kwenkaba, esefuna imbobo yoku chamela nje vo. Sad, crude, cruel but very, very true.

Khumbula isisho sabadala esithi: uthando kaluboni - luku faka noma kuse hlathini!

Therefore it's up to you ukuthi uyamkhipha noma uya mfaka enhliziyweni yakho. The power is in your hands. Mina I'd advise you to cut your losses, cast your net wide & you'll surely get your prince charming out there. It might take time, but be patient, look after yourself & God will bless you. Never be afraid to be alone - after all vele uziphilela uwedwa ngenkathi umasaka lona ekhohlwe ngawe.

There's absolutely nothing wrong ngawe. Uyintombi that deserves better. Into nje uhlangane no mgulukudu ongena nembeza. But never give up your soul. Remember that God is perfect my daughter, just like your soul.

Ngu Ngqesta wakudala
Tsotsi van Kofifi

Ngithemba ubungakamqephuneli mbinjana ulova lo ngoba udlala ngawe. Isazela olaso is good enough. Trust your instincts.
Dlulisela phambili.

Dade, akhona amadoda athandayo kakhulu, kodwa inengi lethu uphange uthundubale ngokuba untombazana uyabe ekuphatha njani. Kulezinto ezimbalwa ezingenza ukuthi ujaha athundubale, ezinye zakhona yilezi.

1. Amadoda akathandi umfazi omlandelelayo kuyonkento ayenzayo. Umfazi ohlola ifoni kaspoksi, lama business cards leminithinithi yonke - hhayi akuvunyelwa lokho. Indoda ifuna ukunikezwa ithuba.

2. Amadoda njalo akathandi umfazi ongakwazi ukulahla iskapenya. Hhayi dade, njengoba ngike ngatsho, kumele isaka lakhe lenhlanyelo lihlale lingela fokolo. Isend-lisi kumele likhale emlenzeni. Izitayila zonke ze kamasithura kumele zifundwe kini.

3. Umfazi olenkani - itshongololo akangeze agcine impintshi.

Okokucina, ngizathi dade kumele as untombazana wenze i"brand" yakho wena. "Brand" yourself. Indlela ogqoka ngayo, ozicecisa ngayo, kuze kufike kumakha owasebenzisayo, langendlela okhuluma ngayo. Thola amabhuku e"self-help" anjengaka De'Angelo "Ngilakho ukukuthumela nge email ungangithinta ngasese".

Ngiyabonga zihlobo.

Kulokhu okuqambayo Dokotela ngizifakela ukhetshu. Angikaze ngihlole lutho lwakhe (cell phone, pockets, business cards etc) Ngitsho lanxa efonelwa sisonke angikaze ngimbuze ngamakholz akhe njalo angiikaze ngimcabangele niks.

Iskapenya ngizifakela ukhetshu ngoba uba kulento ayingcoma ngami yiso. Actually ngijinge nginakane ukuthi mhlawumbe akangithandi kodwa ngimhlinza kubi ecansini okwenza afisa ukuphinda njalo njalo. Njengoba eske watsho omunye ngibona sengathi unginakana esekhanuka indlela engimphakululela ngazo.

Inkani kangilayo, though I am a very firm personality. Yena ke lujaha ngimthanda kakhulu and angikhumbuli sidonselana over anything except ukunyamalala kwakhe. Njalo asidonselani as such but we talk and ngijinge ngibe frank nje. And he has commended me kundlela engixoxisana ngayo laye.

Ngingazi ku-branding lapha. Ngilendlela engiziphatha ngayo ukuziphawuleni njengentombi. Kodwa kakaze afake any comment on my dressing. But uba engithanda njalo engajabuli ngento ezithile ngami kungani engangitsheli? How do you go about it besilisa? Ngizakuthinta.

Dok

Mfana ka mdala ngiyakuzwa hahahahaha. UNqoba uyakhala sibili and njalo usezikhangele according to amapoyinti akho wazibona epasa. Kuhle lokho. Now, kungabe kulungile yini ukuthi anikeze impintshi i sanction ye casi mhlazana efikileyo ngemva kwezinyanga? Or will this lead to impintshi isiyakudla ngaphandle (which he is doing ngokubona kwami)? Kumbe uNqoba ahle atshele impintshi ukuthi la ekhaya kwa Nqoba ezocansi zizakwenzakala twice a week ... loba impintshi ikhona loba ayikho?

Nkazana- diva-gurl, make men (not man) worship you. Ungalali ngaphandle kwengubo ngento edlala ngawe kanje. Inkinga yakho ihlaseli` zintombi ezinengi. Kodwa wena ungesabi ukumtshengisela ukuthi uyi-hot item, kumele akuphathe njengendlovukazi.

- 1) love yourself enough to be free of him, noma angaze akumbuluzele athini. Uzabona ukuthi wena awusobhola lokudlalisa.
- 2) Get a sexxxy/diva makeover from spa treatment to new wardrobe. Yenza agcwale aze achitheke, kodwa wena ube - out of reach. (can look, but don` t touch). Make him beg, don` t give in too easily.
- 3) Nxa ulokhe umfuna, mtshele ama conditions owafunayo, otherwise mtshele ukuthi agcwele amajida akufunayo.
- 4) Nxa enguhlongandlebe, mtshiye enjalo, kodwa wena nkazana -go in style, to show him what he was too blind to see.
- 5) Take time for yourself, to heal. Uzabona amajida ebuya egijima, when you have your makeover mind, body and spirit, but don` t give in too easily to sex until the man makes a-commitment, buys you a house, treats you like a queen `n wants you 4-eva.
- 6) When you get a new man, keep it spicy, interesting. Be a kitten. Accomplished, intelligent, beautiful, sexy, independant, and ultimately powerful. (but sweet enough to let him be the `hero`)


Dadewethu, my sista, I` ve been there before. Ubuhlungu okhala ngakho, ngiyakwazi, it` s part of life/kuyafundwa. Kodwa, don` t let a man get the best of you. Most important of all, hlala ushisa njengeshilisi kodwa ungabambeki, - you` ll rule even the most powerful man on earth.

Gurlfriend, we need to talk!

Hawu tsotsi uzayimela na lindaba emthethwandaba? Akuvunyelwa lokhu okwenzayo mnakwethu. I AIDS yomuntu ngeyakhe zwi akekho olemvumo yokukhuluma ngayo ngaphandle nxa umnikazi enikeze imvumo.

Nanzelela mnakwethu, angikudeleli kodwa ngithe ngicebise.

Ntombiyelanga,
This is great!!! Thank you so much uyazi, ngizizwa ngiduduzeka njalo ngisiba lamandla okuya phambili. Lanxa nje imizwa ingiphika, igxilile kulomfokazi. Kodwa I suppose it is a matter of time, kuzodlula. What can I do ngomuntu engangithandi lanxa ngimthanda kanganani.

Ntombiyelanga

izicebiso zakho personally ngizibona angani zinje; frank, well meaning, and for the wanna-be cassanova man out there, hard hitting. i do however have a problem with points 2,4,6 in your text:


umbono wami ngothi loba i-advice yakho i-positive, in a world eyibuxhakaxhaka njengalowu esiphila kuwo, phecelezi complex ngolwendlovukazi, it is generally hard to go about life nge-templete or i-manual. usisi usenkingeni, but kulendlela yena abeziphethe ngayo, asaziphethe ngayo, and for that matter, azaqhubeka eziphethe ngayo. in other words, ikhona indlela asezibhrende ngakhona. today, that is exactly who she is. unless that kind of ubunguye bakhe kuyibo obumfaka kusimo akiso, i honestly don't think a make-over is in order. imagine going out of your way, your comfort zone, to maintain a look or character that should impress men. round about here i must apologise for perhaps speaking for other people, but i think that the best image you can project is simply being yourself. le yiyo i-image ozohlala uyiyo yona, no chance for surprises ubaba-to-be esefikwelwa ngumoya wokuthi you are no longer the person akubona or ayecabanga ukuthi unguye. there will be man out there who will be impressed ngendlela oyiyoyona lamhlanje.

as for unamba 4, uthando is a thing of emotion. it is not a hard science. when it comes to uthando, thing are never really in black and white. believe me, there is usually a lot of grey areas. for instance, when one thinks about people who matter most in their life, guess what, for all the that piggish behaviour lobaba angabe ekubonisa yona, you can't help but think about them. kangitsho lapha ukuthi u-impossible ukumtshiya umuntu onjalo, but there are a bunch of scenarios that we can ponder. for all we know, there might be some things about this guy that really have a hold over usisi. phela mhlawumbe lubaba is not a complete joke, a complete monster, a complete what ever okokuthi you can just snap a finger, and viola, you are ready to forget all about him and move right on. those things that still make you think of him, and miss him, might need dealing with before utshiya umuntu. so i guess what i'm saying is, instead of just ukumtshiya, let us think about easing and even negotioating your way and emotions out of a relationship. it might take time. and it might involve taking stock.

point number six looks good, but kasifani singabantu, and our intepretations of lezizinto ozibethayo may differ from individual to individual, and so, for example, the way you define accomplished or even beautiful, may not be the same lendlela usisi azawathattha ngakhona.

kangingalandisi, but i do not wish to paint a dull picture of this whole thing. in fact i am quite happy nge-apporach yakho. lets just say a combination of ezinye izinto ozitshoyo will most probably work beautifully, but there will be mistakes and lessons along the way. together with being the individuals that we are, i think we should be willing to learn from the mistakes we make in life

Vunguza,
akudingakali ukuthi udade azitshintshe abengomunye umuntu kodwa kumele aziphathe njengendlovukazi. Ubaba wami wangifundisa ngisemncane ukuthi amadoda akuphatha njengoba ubavumela, ngokuxotsha mina lomama, esethethe omunye umfazi. Inkinga le ngiyayazi ngoba lami ngake ngabalejaha elidlala ngemizwa yami kodwa mina ngilenzela izinto ezinhle. Yebo, its hard to let go, kodwa kumele uqinisele, and finally make peace with yourself, and make space for Mr Right.

As for divatude, ubuhle, and accomplishment, every woman is beautiful in her own way/she just has to bring it out. After ibreak-up, it is the hardest time. One way a woman can boost herself up, is getting a make-over. Yiphi indoda engasoze ikuthakazelele ubuhle lobu? (ngaphandle nxa engu-Misthang?)

Asidingi ukuzonda amadoda, kodwa mina ngithi, umfazi engaqoma indoda elungileyo, kumele ayiphathe njengenkosi, ngoba layo izamphatha njengendlovukazi. Kodwa umfazi engakhomba umdlali, u-player (engakwazi), ngithi kunkazana, `stand up for yourself.`

Ntombiyelanga

fair point, sister, fair point.

after all, the energy that you send out to the world is eventually the same energy you will attract to yourself. i still cannot figure out ukuthi i-expression leyi ithini ngesakithi.

Uthando, ulakho ukuluthola ngokuzi khankasa ngendlela eveza i"brand " yakho. Lokhu kwenza njalo ukuthi omasaka bangaze bafinyelela, bahle besabele khatshana. Kumele ube "competetive", kuyafana lezinye izinto esihlangana lazo empilweni, njenge mfundo, inotho, amanetwork, impumelelo lemidlalo.

isitsho sakho siyezwakala, kodwa kungani kulento leyo eyema- opposites attract? Kungani nxa uyintombi ilomusa amanye amajaha babona angani ungushesha avume/bamthathela phezulu behle bethi hayi, lowo ngizamsebenzisa? Nxa uyintombi ukhanya uzithanda amanye amajida bakubona angathi ungu-high maintainance?
Ngichasisela i-same energy theory leyo.

Hawu Dokotela, long time no hear. Ungangichasisela ukuthi kuyini i-brand? Yi-category yemihlobo yezintombi yini? Kodwa ule-point, of being `competitive` ezintweni ezinengi empilweni, kodwa ngicela ukubuza what happens nxa uhlala endaweni engela majaha ongawazwisisa njengabako Mthwakazi? Kumbe nxa ungelama-options aqondileyo? I-brand yami kumele ibe- goal-getting, confident, kind, creative, young, wise, beautiful- kodwa kungani o-YO bengikhombisa okwamanga-manga, lanxa ngingelandaba labo?
Kumbe yikuthi abantu abanengi bacabanga ukuthi I`m still in my teens, mina ngikuma-twenties, besebebona angathi - angumntwanyana engingagijimisa? I-brand leyi, iya-confuza, ngoba I`m one way one hand, but look differently on another hand. The point is, omasaka abesabi ukungilanda.

There was I thinking you only joined yesterday...

Yes, I joined yesterday, but I haven` t heard from Dok. Wonke umuntu uyakwazi na ukuthi ngingumafikizolo?

Dade okala nge tru Luv. Bakithi okunye ungathi yikukhulumela ukuba sithole okungasilibazisa nje kuphela. I brend le elizibrender ngayo kanti kuyini sibili? Umuntu ngumuntu ngoyikhokhona okuhlanganisela ubuntu bakho. Khonokho oyikhokhona yikho okumele kuthandwe ngokuthandayo, ngoba uma ukuguqula usenzela ukuthi ng;khona uzabonaka yibo omasaka labo abatshiwoyo, ngibona kuzakukhathaza kusasa. Phela singakwenza konke okwenziwayo lokho, lakhonaphela ukubrender lokho kodwa kubuye kusiphendukele nxa phela asithi sesakhile lalowo owabona i brend hatshi umuntu uqobolwakhe usumguqukele wabangesinye isimo hatshi asibonayo mhlalihlangana. Ngithola kukuhle ukuziphatha kuhle nje uyilokho owadalwa uyikhokhona.

Kuliqiniso ukuba isifazana sonke asihle lesibi loba onjani ingqe elebele, angaze ugobile kumbe uqondile, iqiniso yikuthi uyakhonjiswa kuphela ende uma etshiphile, bayam'bhuqa abafana. Ungaboni bebhuza uthikumbe yimhlolo, yikwenza kwabo, wena yazi ukuthi akusibonke abakulandayo abaqotho. Inengi ngoLandelani laboSandisa betsho bezamanje kungelalutho. Phela labo umabebhuza njengokubekakwakho mhlawumbe kukhona okubonakeleyo.

Lo ozangokulamba kantiyena kanje wawuboneni kuye ngoba umawayevele enje, sengabe wamdampa kudala wazidingela ohambelana lawe. Enjoy your life kusavuma ngoba sizakutshiya isikhathi.

Njengoba ngitshilo Dade, akudingakali ukuthi umuntu azitshintshe ukuze akhonjiswe hatshi. Nxa ngikhuluma ngeyami i-brand, ngivele nginjalo ngemvelo, umama wasikhulisa ukuthi sibe- creative, beautiful, confident, independant, sexy, strong- ultimate a diva. Ngoba umama wayevele enjalo esesemusha. (My mom expects nothing less from her daughters.) Umama was the kind of woman to host a dinner party with intelligent accomplished people in a stunning evening gown, whilst she could cook/a 5 course dinner in stillettos; umama wayebusa amadoda ayengekho comfortable with women in charge. Konke lokhu kwakusenzakala ekhaya eZim, into engangijwayelanga ukuyibona. I` d be a fool not to learn to be all that I was taught growing up. Leyo nsizwa engilayo/engizabalayo, izokwazi ukuthi nginjani ngempela ingakangiqomisi. (he`ll know what he` s got on his hands) Angisoze ngitshintshe.

Uqinisile ukuthi amajaha wonke aphongulandela, kodwa I don` t waste my time with nothings. Angimelelanga umuntu ngoba impilo yami ngiyaziphilela; varsity, work, modeling, writing a book etc. As for finding true love, angikhathali kangako ngoba I have long time decent male friends/admirers; ngingazikhethela nje, it` s up to me.

Bengike ngatsho be "branding" ukuthi iqakathekile kumuntu wonke. I"Branding" ayitsho ukuthi usuzatshintsha i"identity" yakho. It just means you thrive to improve the way you do things, the way you look, the way you communicate et cetera.

I don't honestly see a reason why any person would not want to improve certain aspects of their lives. We are not perfect, yikho mina ngithi let us strive for perfection in everything we do. Umhlaba lo is very competetive. You will find yourself attracting people of a different calibre too.

Mina personally angeke ngitsho ukuthi ngile-experience yama-opposites attracting quite strongly kuma-relationships. i however do hear about it a lot. if it is more than just male attracted to female or vice versa, it could be that perhaps lowomuntu obona angani lababantu abezwanayo ngama-opposites akatholanga ithuba lokufundisisa lesosimo salabobantu.

i should be quick to point out ukuthi i do not dismiss that said theory. i am entirely not sure ukuthi ama-opposites can last in a union yezothando. talk of i-discord le okhuluma ngayo eye-incompartibility eza lokuthi either omunye ucababga ukuthi uyasetshenziswa, kumbe omunye ebiza omunye ngo-high maintenance, etc, etc. in the same vein i challenge the theory ethi umfana wenkomo can exist in a healthy love relationship le stock broker sase-Wall Street. ok, hyperbole aside, izindaba zothando, ngowami umbono, ziye zisebenze kungaba le-balance ethile, where each party pulls their weight, which means, knowing exactly how much wieght it is that you pull also means knowing the wieght that the other party pulls (phecelezi knowing AND understanding each other very well). unless ngiphosisile, lokhu kwenzeka if bobabili abantu be-functiona ku-same world, level, sengani becabanga ngendlela efanayo.