hey bantu ncedani...ngafa ngedwa nje!!! i need a man...a real man...i once had that kynd of man now he's gone and i'm rebounding bad....i need a man.....

Hawu msindo ungasethusi kanje.

Uthi wena uyafa ngendlala, awuphilanga kade wacina ukuba lejaha.

Inkinga yakho ingaphi? uma uyiCute byach leyo ozibiza yona manje kwala ngaphi.

Indaba yakho leyo inzima njalo ngeke sakunceda uma ungatshongo ukuthi ungumuntu onjani, ujongeni empliweni njalo lowo "Real Man" owawulaye wabalekiswa yini?

Akucace, phumela egcekeni.

Ngokubona kwami did the "real man" dump u?Yindaba ungambuzanga ukubana wakwalelani,there was a reason dade.Yikuthi abanye abantu baba lothando which they tend to give to every jack and jill,ube usucabanga ukuthi umuntu akumele.

Zama ukuzinceda. Ungavakatshela amagilosa athengiza ithoyizi zokuzinceda dade hk hk.

Ngiyazisomela dade. Zama 'Inkundla-yezothando', im sure akhona amajaha alephango njengawe dade!!

DINGA NGOKUSHESHA SIBILI KUNKUNDLA YEZOTHANDO KODWA UKUTHI UZAYITHOLA SIBILI I TRUE LOVE,ANGAZI.AMA TRUE LOVE ASALA EMA AIRPOT BACK HOME JUST LIKE IMBEKO LAYO YONKE LENYAKANYAKA.

DINGA IJAHA KUPHELA OKWE TRUE LOVE UME KANCANE,NANKO UTHI U ONCE EXPERIENCED IT LOMUNYE UMUNTU KODWA SOKWAPHELA,BATHI TRUE LOVE NEVER DIES.

NGIKUFISELA INHLANHLA DADEWETHU

THE THING IZ KUNZIMA UKUTHOLA ITRUE LOVE MNAWAMI COZ IN MOST CASES WONKE UMUNTU UYABE ESITHI UYAKUTHANDA YENA ELENJONGO YAKHE FOR EXAMPLE EYEKUKUKHWELA ADLULE. THEN OMUNYE UBUYA EL;ETRUE LOVE KUHLALE KUYITRUE LOVE KUBEMNANDI KUBENJEYA. MINA MY ADVICE IZ 4 U 2 FIND TRUE LOVE U HAVE TO TAKE ARISKSSSSS THEN MAYBE ALONG THE LINE U MAY OR MAYNOT FIND TRUE LIFE.

THE THING IZ KUNZIMA UKUTHOLA ITRUE LOVE MNAWAMI COZ IN MOST CASES WONKE UMUNTU UYABE ESITHI UYAKUTHANDA YENA ELENJONGO YAKHE FOR EXAMPLE EYEKUKUKHWELA ADLULE. THEN OMUNYE UBUYA EL;ETRUE LOVE KUHLALE KUYITRUE LOVE KUBEMNANDI KUBENJEYA. MINA MY ADVICE IZ 4 U 2 FIND TRUE LOVE U HAVE TO TAKE ARISKSSSSS THEN MAYBE ALONG THE LINE U MAY OR MAYNOT FIND TRUE LIFE.

My sister am not the one sort of person who likes giving advice on such matters, but however i must say your wailing somehow caught my attention.To bigin with i would like to offer you words of courage,wisdom and above all motivation so that you won't feel hard pressed and end up succumbing to temptation.Better late than never those are my first words of comfort to you.I know for a fact that greatest happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved- loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.Having said this may i hasten to point out to you that love is a gift, its only that we receive this gift at different stages of our life time, some receive it earlier than others while others receive it a bit latter in life.Msindo allow me to tell you that you haven't received your gift yet! but it will surely come to you, thats as certain as much as we know the sun will rise from the east and set on the west.I have reason to believe that what you perhaps thought was the one wasn't at all, for what god gives never takes away.Rest easy my sister avoid temptations mingle with the right sort of people and visit the right sort of places and above all the way you carry yourself out says it all.If you want a proper man act like a proper lady and you will soon be set free for Mother Teresa once said "Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within reach of every hand." .I therefore believe that you also have a chance of stretching out your hand to receive this gift but be careful not to stretch your hand to everyman you will find yourself in muddy waters. i don't believe in going about taking risks with everyhand just like one of our members advised. It is quite simply dangerous in this day and age, take your time and remember the devil thrives in desperation my sister.Believe in yourself there are so many man out there who genuinely are looking for genuine women ,so for this reason let me say to you that you are not alone in this predicament but the difference is how you handle the situation.So Msindo your man is available out there and he is on his way, don't worry and go on trying everydoor its just not worth it.No man would want to get involved with everyone's woman but would want to appreciate and have in his arms a worthy lady.I hope my words will not bring about any pain in anybody's heart but will help everyone out there in a similar situation.

Well to say the least i understand where you are cause im kind like there as well..you might find someone to relive the stress but then the True Love is hard to find ...

Don't just take risk..take calculated risks with your heart..
Pray about it...
Do not Rush it...
Enjoy your freedom...

And Hope that God will hear your prayers and give you some to LOVE...

Good LUCK...

Mina ngithi zamazama dade, kodwa uzame kwabakithi hatshi iziyelele zezizweni.

Ngezinye izikhathi, uthando luqalisa ngecansi. Ngaze impintshi ikupensele blayind, kusharp, nxa ingavele ijwayele ayisoze ifune ukukwekela. Uyiphe blayind izkimu, ize ihlale ingela hlanyelo.

Impintshi yakho yakuqala yakulehlelani? Wawuyipha na izkimu? Abadala bathi zithiywa ngezikudlayo, njalo baphinde bathi umswane wedube ngose siswini. Ngithemba kusobala.

Ulunya olukulumuzi qotho!

Ungezwa wena Msindo. Qinisela ubekezele uzaze umthole oqinisekileyo. Just don't despair. Your time will come Mama! Unganiki kuphela ikhekhe lakho mahara until azinikele kuwe wedwa!

Msindo ngizakukhumbila nxa ngiguqa ngoba lami ngibambe lunye.Uyazi kunzima ukuya ecansini lomuntu ongamthandiyo ukhangelele ukuthi kungaphuma uthando.Amatoyisi ngangiwakhumbule kodwa phela kawasoze afane layo uqobo.Ilala-vuka-sisi(doc shebeleza),kayisadlisi kulezinsuku ngoba ungasala lamafingure prints.Ama-cd lawo ngangiwasole ngenani labantu abasitshiya ngendaba leyana ezwisa ubuhlungu

Majita
Khombisani kuhle lapha hayikhona ukuzenza o Agony Aunt bamanga! Isiqokoqela sendaba liyasazi. Ngethemba yikho elikwenzayo ngasese

u will find true love msindo jus be patient yeahhhh good things come to those who wait

Kanti bakwethu lingangitshela nje ukuthi yindaba lilolunya lomunye uMthwakazi.Kunani ukuthi sizithulele kulokubhubhisa isizwe sikaMthwakazi ngento ezingelamsebenzi shuwa.

Msindo

Uma kuyikuthi uvele ulomsindo njenge gama lakho ngiyabona yikho okukhathazayo. Uboluma owangaphansi dade mhlawumbe amajaha kawafuni umuntu olomsindo. Mina ngokwami kangilandaba losisi olomsindo

Dok

Wangibulala s'bali nge advice!

Bhudaza

Lawe umsindo uyawumela hk hk hk.

Lina bafana ligangile, lingami engotsheni yangakithi ngizalithela ngamazi alobukhokho

Msindo

the only way of finding true love is to give it to someone, it is in you.

three devils had a meeting to discuss on how to hide love from man. the first one suggested they cast love into a volcanic crater. the chief devil pointed that man is so cunning he will dig for minerals and find love. the second devil suggested they throw love into the deepest ocean, but the chief devil refrained by pointing that man will certainly plunder the oceanfloors and find love. on the next morning the chief devil had a brilliant idea, they agreed to hide love in man himself.

moral of the story

kanti umsindo wakhona ingani kasa phenduli??kumbe sehle waluthola uthando masinaye kanje

Ngilrlinye isu dade. Leli lande uku sentshenziswa ngabe tshabi, kodwa njengoba usesikhathini sendlala zama.

Dinga impintshi, elegeje yakithi engela mfazi. Njengokutsho kwami ngaphambilini, uyiphe iskapenya blayind, ibe njengo bunyonyo obufela elujwini.

Zama ukuthi ikumithise. Ungaba le sisu, engazama ukukwala, hamba emthethwandaba ibhadale imentenensi. Izabona kumele ukuthathe, ngoba nxa ingeyakithi iyabe ingafuni uku tshintsha impondo ukuthi bhadale imentenensi.

Zama ukubuzisisa ukuthi, ungenza njani ecansini lapho ukuthi uyijabulise leyo mpintshi.

Nxa ufuna amaleseni ecansi ulakho ukuza ngapha esibhedlela uzancedakala.

WuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuHHH

Sarendi!!

Yini usarenda kanti mngane, mina ngithi uzangi qakezela izandla. Kumele ngithole imiklomelo ngalelisu.

Ulayela umntwana esilaheni wenzani kanti Dokotela???

Hawu dade Mabila, i advise yami le yiyo ongayithola ku psychologist dade. Okwamanje akula geje engilitholayo kodwa, intwenje yinto okumele ingitholise igeje blayind.

Msindo, uthe wena u khyuthi kodwa uthe umlomo wakho awuhlalwa mpukane. Kugcono ukuthi uvale umlomo, kodwa uvule iskapenya for impintshi.

Dinga i true love Msindo from abangane besilisa olabo khona manje.

Ofuna iskapenya ngolimi luka Dok umele alinde. Nxa engazimiselanga ukulinda, mtshle adlulele phambili bamnike abanikanayo!

Msindo dade, mina engakuzwa from the one wise and experienced oldie yikuthi the best true love there is out there luthando wena ozinikeza lona ngokwakho. Zama ukunga khanyi njengo muntu who yearns for anybody else's brand of true love. Carry yourself in a mannerr that refelcts that you truly love yourself, and anybody else's "true love is just a bonus."

Kodwa ke angisho mina ukuthi uncishane nge momoza since ukusheya imomoza is quite an enjoyable excercise, and maybe some true love might develop from there (angithi Doc?). Lokhu okwama "toys" as suggested by some "experienced" forumites is an uncalled for misuse of a God-given resource.

hope you find your brand of true love.

Kenje uhlala ngaphi dade?

hk hk hk Dok usufuna ngivuse isaga esinye hantsho?

Iskapenya asiwakhi umuzi.

Siyavumelana Ndumshy, iskapenya kumele siphiwe impintshi sonke hayi ikhanda kuphela. Kumele impintshi ihlale ingela mbewu amasakeni ukwenzela ukuthi ingaze yacabanga ngabanye.

Ukuncishana le momoza yinto embi kakhulu, okumele yenqatshelwe ethandweni.

Sgero, hk hk. Iskapenya siyawakha mfo umuzi, yiso umlomo wesi gcinambewu phela.

Msindo, ungasake uthole yena jaha, osithandayo iskapenya. Ovuka ngaso alantshe ngaso aphinde alale ngaso apahphame ngaso.

Dok

mfowethu angithi uyazi ukuthi izaga zilokuphikisana. Nansi esiphikisa lesiya sakuqala:

Umuzi kawakhiwa nge skapenya esisodwa.

Liqiniso lelo mfanakithi. Umuzi wakhiwa ngazo izkapenya mfowethu.

Uyangchaza brawami!

thanx for all those advices...bt mina i wont rest till i fnd real love aiite.....

p.s. angisoze ngithule futhi...my mouth is big and its needs opening!!!
kawuhlalwa yimpukane!!

Msindo

Ungadinga uswele mntakadade, ungitshele ngizakuthumela kubo 'danela ngapha'

dade Msindo mina ngibona sengathi ukhona osekuhlabe umxhwele enkundleni lapha, akumbethe igama lakhe kubekanye. Okwesibili dade wena do you have the so called 'true love' to give. I don't think so. Love is just natural. Iyazibhubhudlela nje isiya lapho ethande khona. Of which ngendlela odinga ngayo le ngeke uze uyifumane. Yikho nje ngisithi I think you are targeting someone enkundleni lapha. Thetha naye liphanane imomoza. Thats what life is about.

Bosgero labo dokotela kungani lingehlisa kanje. Can't you service the desperate soul. Ufuna imomoza uMsindo. Selilokhu limxwayisa lokhu lalokhuya kulokuthi limbizele ngasese limcende.
Selingesabisa phela majida, indlela eliphendula ngayo ungathi lina umlilo kade wacima. Sizani udade.

dade Msindo mina ngibona sengathi ukhona osekuhlabe umxhwele enkundleni lapha, akumbethe igama lakhe kubekanye. Okwesibili dade wena do you have the so called 'true love' to give. I don't think so. Love is just natural. Iyazibhubhudlela nje isiya lapho ethande khona. Of which ngendlela odinga ngayo le ngeke uze uyifumane. Yikho nje ngisithi I think you are targeting someone enkundleni lapha. Thetha naye liphanane imomoza. Thats what life is about.

Bosgero labo dokotela kungani lingehlisa kanje. Can't you service the desperate soul. Ufuna imomoza uMsindo. Selilokhu limxwayisa lokhu lalokhuya kulokuthi limbizele ngasese limcende.
Selingesabisa phela majida, indlela eliphendula ngayo ungathi lina umlilo kade wacima. Sizani udade.

MALISA uyahlekisana mntakababa lami bengithi mhlawumbe kukhona okutshaya amanzi la enkundleni. ukhuluma ngemva kwendaba ngoba omunye umfowethu osingili sowabika kodwa kakatholi impendula mhlawumbe umsindo wandelwa zincwadi zokufuna uthando angazi.(application)

Gaselomhle

hk hk hk mina dala ngazibika mfowethu sengilinde nje ukuthi udade aqedelane labamotsha isikhathi azezihlalela kimi la. Ingotsha futhi kuye kulezinsuku iluhlaza tshoko, uma ucatshe vele ungabonwa muntu!! Inswabanda azikho futhi.

Kunjalo Gasela.

Ngisapota uSgero, ekuthini uMsindo, kumele aye engotsheni impintshi ifihle ispanela. Okwe ndandatho sizakubona kwelizayo. Kuqakathekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi ichibi litshona okunganani ungaka zimiseli ukuhlala ukubhukutsha kilo.

Msindo, usumtholile ozathanda wena leskapenya sakho.

kanti msindo wena ungaphi kwendawo??

kade ngakudinga msindo.ukuphi?

phendula dadewethu awuzwe sezibika amadoda anganamahloni.Sengathi inhlanhla ingahle ikuvelele ivela kumfowethu utshisa. bambangamazinyo.

Ngicela usizo bandla;
Do men love as women do or thir love is seasonal, ie-it comes and goes.
ngibuziswa yinkinga engilayo, I am head over heals ngeny'insizwa but ijinge iphole nje. Nxa ngiyibuza ukuthi iyangithanda na, ivele ithi qotho mntan'omuntu and nxa sisonke uyangijabulisa kodwa ngijinge ngingazi ukuthi luthando kumbe ligabazi mvelo yakhe.
Ukubanda kwakhe kusekuthini uyathuliselela athi nya okwezinyanga. If I do not initiate contact uyazithulela. Ma ngibuza uthi ngiyabe ngiphathekile.
Kodwa ke lumuntu ngiyamthanda, nooma sengilele ngiphupha ngaye.
Zinsizwa tshonini, luyisima kanjani uthando from yo pespective kumbe lumuntu udlala umbhedo lami.
Ngisizeni bo, khona manje iyadabuka inhliziyo yami ngayo, ngesikhathi esifanayo impompoza uthando oluzileyo ngaye.

Nqoba


Nonetheless, I'll address your problem. Izwa ngami mina Ngqesta wodumo. Sisi wami, uyabon' ukuthini, lo masaka othandana naye akekho serious. Udlala ngawe nje. Ukwenza kwakhe lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi vese yena uno mayidululu wakhe, isinqandamathe sakhe, isixebe sakhe esimkhumbuza eNevaneva - sithathe sonke isikhathi sakhe. Wena nje usuke akucabange, akufune eceleni kwakhe only if esevukelwe, sekushisa enzansi kwenkaba, esefuna imbobo yoku chamela nje vo. Sad, crude, cruel but very, very true.

Khumbula isisho sabadala esithi: uthando kaluboni - luku faka noma kuse hlathini!

Therefore it's up to you ukuthi uyamkhipha noma uya mfaka enhliziyweni yakho. The power is in your hands. Mina I'd advise you to cut your losses, cast your net wide & you'll surely get your prince charming out there. It might take time, but be patient, look after yourself & God will bless you. Never be afraid to be alone - after all vele uziphilela uwedwa ngenkathi umasaka lona ekhohlwe ngawe.

There's absolutely nothing wrong ngawe. Uyintombi that deserves better. Into nje uhlangane no mgulukudu ongena nembeza. But never give up your soul. Remember that God is perfect my daughter, just like your soul.

Ngu Ngqesta wakudala
Tsotsi van Kofifi

Ngithemba ubungakamqephuneli mbinjana ulova lo ngoba udlala ngawe. Isazela olaso is good enough. Trust your instincts.
Dlulisela phambili.

Dade, akhona amadoda athandayo kakhulu, kodwa inengi lethu uphange uthundubale ngokuba untombazana uyabe ekuphatha njani. Kulezinto ezimbalwa ezingenza ukuthi ujaha athundubale, ezinye zakhona yilezi.

1. Amadoda akathandi umfazi omlandelelayo kuyonkento ayenzayo. Umfazi ohlola ifoni kaspoksi, lama business cards leminithinithi yonke - hhayi akuvunyelwa lokho. Indoda ifuna ukunikezwa ithuba.

2. Amadoda njalo akathandi umfazi ongakwazi ukulahla iskapenya. Hhayi dade, njengoba ngike ngatsho, kumele isaka lakhe lenhlanyelo lihlale lingela fokolo. Isend-lisi kumele likhale emlenzeni. Izitayila zonke ze kamasithura kumele zifundwe kini.

3. Umfazi olenkani - itshongololo akangeze agcine impintshi.

Okokucina, ngizathi dade kumele as untombazana wenze i"brand" yakho wena. "Brand" yourself. Indlela ogqoka ngayo, ozicecisa ngayo, kuze kufike kumakha owasebenzisayo, langendlela okhuluma ngayo. Thola amabhuku e"self-help" anjengaka De'Angelo "Ngilakho ukukuthumela nge email ungangithinta ngasese".

Ngiyabonga zihlobo.

Kulokhu okuqambayo Dokotela ngizifakela ukhetshu. Angikaze ngihlole lutho lwakhe (cell phone, pockets, business cards etc) Ngitsho lanxa efonelwa sisonke angikaze ngimbuze ngamakholz akhe njalo angiikaze ngimcabangele niks.

Iskapenya ngizifakela ukhetshu ngoba uba kulento ayingcoma ngami yiso. Actually ngijinge nginakane ukuthi mhlawumbe akangithandi kodwa ngimhlinza kubi ecansini okwenza afisa ukuphinda njalo njalo. Njengoba eske watsho omunye ngibona sengathi unginakana esekhanuka indlela engimphakululela ngazo.

Inkani kangilayo, though I am a very firm personality. Yena ke lujaha ngimthanda kakhulu and angikhumbuli sidonselana over anything except ukunyamalala kwakhe. Njalo asidonselani as such but we talk and ngijinge ngibe frank nje. And he has commended me kundlela engixoxisana ngayo laye.

Ngingazi ku-branding lapha. Ngilendlela engiziphatha ngayo ukuziphawuleni njengentombi. Kodwa kakaze afake any comment on my dressing. But uba engithanda njalo engajabuli ngento ezithile ngami kungani engangitsheli? How do you go about it besilisa? Ngizakuthinta.

Dok

Mfana ka mdala ngiyakuzwa hahahahaha. UNqoba uyakhala sibili and njalo usezikhangele according to amapoyinti akho wazibona epasa. Kuhle lokho. Now, kungabe kulungile yini ukuthi anikeze impintshi i sanction ye casi mhlazana efikileyo ngemva kwezinyanga? Or will this lead to impintshi isiyakudla ngaphandle (which he is doing ngokubona kwami)? Kumbe uNqoba ahle atshele impintshi ukuthi la ekhaya kwa Nqoba ezocansi zizakwenzakala twice a week ... loba impintshi ikhona loba ayikho?

Nkazana- diva-gurl, make men (not man) worship you. Ungalali ngaphandle kwengubo ngento edlala ngawe kanje. Inkinga yakho ihlaseli` zintombi ezinengi. Kodwa wena ungesabi ukumtshengisela ukuthi uyi-hot item, kumele akuphathe njengendlovukazi.

- 1) love yourself enough to be free of him, noma angaze akumbuluzele athini. Uzabona ukuthi wena awusobhola lokudlalisa.
- 2) Get a sexxxy/diva makeover from spa treatment to new wardrobe. Yenza agcwale aze achitheke, kodwa wena ube - out of reach. (can look, but don` t touch). Make him beg, don` t give in too easily.
- 3) Nxa ulokhe umfuna, mtshele ama conditions owafunayo, otherwise mtshele ukuthi agcwele amajida akufunayo.
- 4) Nxa enguhlongandlebe, mtshiye enjalo, kodwa wena nkazana -go in style, to show him what he was too blind to see.
- 5) Take time for yourself, to heal. Uzabona amajida ebuya egijima, when you have your makeover mind, body and spirit, but don` t give in too easily to sex until the man makes a-commitment, buys you a house, treats you like a queen `n wants you 4-eva.
- 6) When you get a new man, keep it spicy, interesting. Be a kitten. Accomplished, intelligent, beautiful, sexy, independant, and ultimately powerful. (but sweet enough to let him be the `hero`)


Dadewethu, my sista, I` ve been there before. Ubuhlungu okhala ngakho, ngiyakwazi, it` s part of life/kuyafundwa. Kodwa, don` t let a man get the best of you. Most important of all, hlala ushisa njengeshilisi kodwa ungabambeki, - you` ll rule even the most powerful man on earth.

Gurlfriend, we need to talk!

Hawu tsotsi uzayimela na lindaba emthethwandaba? Akuvunyelwa lokhu okwenzayo mnakwethu. I AIDS yomuntu ngeyakhe zwi akekho olemvumo yokukhuluma ngayo ngaphandle nxa umnikazi enikeze imvumo.

Nanzelela mnakwethu, angikudeleli kodwa ngithe ngicebise.